Psychology of men in dating
It starts out light and fun, it’s about connecting and enjoying each other’s company.After a few great dates with a seemingly great guy, most women can’t help but get excited about the possibilities.They think of where the relationship might go and they start to invest in a fantasy future. You become attached to this fantasy future and then you can’t help but stress over it and worry about losing it (even though it’s not something you ever really had! Then your fears and insecurities rise to the surface and seep into your interactions with him.QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?If you’re the strong guy that I want you to be, then you’re going to know how to pass the test with flying colors.
Either you notice that he starts to pull away and seems less engaged (commonly known as “the fade away”), or he just vanishes (a phenomenon known as “ghosting”). When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason.
You begin interacting with the thoughts in your head rather than with the person in front of you.
Rather than trying to learn who he is and what he’s about, you look at his behavior and the things he says as a means to measure how he feels about you…
But make no mistake: , that it’s none of her business. It’s happy in its state of safety and inertia, and it doesn’t want to get out there on the edge.
You get mad at her for your own retreat and weakness. She’s trying to light a fire under your ass and give you the oomph you didn’t have on your own. So while you may think that fighting with her is “winning,” it’s not.